Guest post from Rachel Parker. Rachel runs some sessions for Durham Musical Minis.
I'm currently 18 weeks pregnant with my second baby and in a few days time my husband and I will be attending the routine ultrasound scan where we will have the chance to find out the sex of the baby. We still haven't decided whether to find out or not!
When we attended this scan for our first baby we knew for sure that we wanted to know if was going to be a boy or a girl. We were given the news that I was carrying a healthy baby boy and the thing I remember most was the enormous grin on my husband's face. It was as though I could read his mind and he was imagining taking his son to football matches, passing on his DIY skills and one day popping to the local pub together for a beer. I started buying blue clothes and toy cars and we painted the nursery for our little boy. We picked out a name and always referred to our unborn baby as a he. We were so excited.
Then a few weeks before I was due to give birth I started to wonder, what if they had got it wrong? I had built up this idea of a baby boy in my head, given him a name and decorated his room and what if it was a girl? Would I be disappointed? Would I miss the little boy I had imagined I was having? As it turned out, I was worried over nothing as I gave birth to a healthy baby boy and he was everything I imagined and more!
So this time do I save myself that worry and leave it as a surprise or take the risk again? I just can't decide!
My reasons for finding out at the scan include being able to focus our attention on either boys or girls names (so far we haven't agreed on any for either sex) and finding it that little bit easier to explain to our little boy that he is going to have either a brother or a sister rather than being a bit ambiguous about the whole thing. I also remember from last time that once I knew I was having a boy it suddenly all felt a bit more real and somehow the bond between us and the baby grew stronger and I would love to have that feeling again.
The only reason I can think of why I wouldn't want to find out at the scan (other than the possibility of the sonographer making a mistake) is that it would "spoil" the surprise. I have this idea that my husband could be the one to tell me the sex at the birth and I know he'd love that.
Of course none of these reasons matter that much when all we really care about is that the newest addition to our family is healthy and happy.
At the time I'm writing this I'm leaning more towards finding out at the scan but if it turns out that our little one is camera shy and doesn't want us to know just yet, I don't think I'll be too disappointed.
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